Emotional Scale
Figure out your emotional weight!

We all have problems in our lives that we’d like to fix.

But before we can even address these issues, we need a realistic assessment of where the pain points are. Taking this quiz will give you a clear picture of just how much “Emotional Weight” you’ve put on, and get you on the road to fixing it. It’s only by understanding how our emotions are affecting our actions, beliefs, and lives, that we can begin to make positive changes.

But remember – this test only works if you are as honest with yourself as possible.

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Junk Food Thoughts

Physical Signs of Emotional Obesity

I am aware of the effects stress can cause in my body, and I take daily action to manage it.

"The soul is dyed the color of its thoughts."

― Heraclitus

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Right/Wrong

I avoid claiming to be "right" or "wrong" in day-to-day moments.

“The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.”

― Plato

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Rejection

I do not allow a fear of rejection to stop me from taking action.

“Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world.”

― Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose

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Taking It Personally

I do not take other people's moods or opinions about me personally. Everyone has a right to his or her views.

“Whatever happens around you, don't take it personally... Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.”

― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

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Significance

I feel appreciated by other people, like my friends or family.

"Next to physical survival, the greatest need of a human being is psychological survival—to be understood, to be affirmed, to be validated, to be appreciated."

― Steven Covey

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Fear

I manage my fears and do not let them determine my life's decisions.

“The moment from certainty to uncertainty is what I call fear.”

— Krishnamurti, Freedom from The Unknown

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Blame

I own my current circumstances; no one else is responsible for the quality of my life.

"There is practically a mania these days for blaming the events of our childhood for our current despair. What the ego doesn’t want us to see is that our pain doesn’t come from the love we weren’t given in the past, but from the love we ourselves aren’t giving in the present. Salvation is only found in the present. Every moment we have a chance to change our past and our future by reprogramming the present. Such a view is blasphemy to the ego and we are judged harshly for espousing it. Although we might have learned the ways of lovelessness from our parents, perpetuating their patterns by denying them love now is hardly the way out of the problem. We don’t get to the light through endless investigation of the darkness."

― Marianne Williamson

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Assumption

I refrain from making assumptions when communicating and ask for clarification when needed.

“If others tell us something we make assumptions, and if they don't tell us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate. Even if we hear something and we don't understand we make assumptions about what it means and then believe the assumptions. We make all sorts of assumptions because we don't have the courage to ask questions.”

― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

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Cannot or Should Not

I refrain from using words like “can't” and “shouldn't.”

“If I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.”

― Mahatma Gandhi

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Imposter Voices

I take action from my thoughts alone. I don’t always check in with my core feelings and emotions.

“Egoism is the identification, as it were, of the power of the Seer (Purusha) with that of the instrument of seeing”

― Sutra 2.6 Patanjali

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Anger

I understand that anger comes and goes, so I refrain from taking action from a place of anger.

"Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."

― Buddha

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Judgment

I understand that judgment is a part of life, but I manage my inner judge's harmful views of others or myself.

"Sometimes even to live is an act of courage"

― Seneca

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Shame

I was "made" right. I am not a mistake. I have flaws, but I am not wrong at my core.

“Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.”

― Brene Brown

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Certainty of Success

I will pursue a goal, even if I am not 100% certain I will succeed.

“You can only be afraid of what you think you know.”

― Jiddu Krishnamurti

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Dread

My life is not heavy and weighed down.

“You wanna fly, you got to give up the shit that weighs you down.”

― Toni Morrison, Song of Solomon

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Victim

Other people or events do not dictate or define my life. I am in charge.

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”

― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

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Nutritional Thoughts

Contribution

I actively seek out ways to contribute my talents into the world.

“Each of us is a unique strand in the intricate web of life and here to make a contribution.”

― Deepak Chopra

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Growth

I actively seek to learn and grow daily.

“Every problem is a gift - without problems we would not grow.”

― Anthony Robbins

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Attachment

I allow painful moments to pass without feeling overwhelmed. I allow pleasurable moments to pass without attempting to hold on to them.

"2.7 attachment is that which follows identification with pleasurable experiences 2.8 Aversion is that which follows identification with painful experiences"

― Patanjali Sutras 2.7, 2.8

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Habit

I am aware of my emotional habits, and if a habit is not serving me I will go out of my way to change and improve it.

“Men are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound.”

― James Allen

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Joy

I am fulfilled with my life as it is; nothing is lacking.

“When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.”

― Rumi Section 4

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Time

I am in charge of how I use my time.

“Time is the most valuable coin in your life. You and you alone will determine how that coin will be spent. Be careful that you do not let other people spend it for you.”

― Carl Sandburg

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Celebrate Wins

I celebrate even small wins on a regular basis.

“The more praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.”

― Oprah

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Gratitude

I consider gratitude to be one of my core values. I regularly take time to scan the moment for what I am grateful for, even in unsatisfactory situations.

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”

― Epicurus

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Curious of Self

I do not feel like I know everything. Instead, I am constantly curious about the world around me, other people, and myself.

“In Buddha’s opinion, to train in staying open and curious—to train in dissolving our assumptions and beliefs—is the best use of our human lives.”

― Pema Chödrön, The Pocket Pema Chodron

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Abundance

I feel as though my needs, both physical and emotional, are met.

“Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion.”

― Rumi

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Authenticity

I feel authentic, real, and genuinely like myself in my daily interactions.

“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.”

― Marianne Williamson

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Surrender

I give myself space, step back, and let go of things I cannot solve in the moment.

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I'll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about.”

― Rumi

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Self-Worth

I know my deeper, authentic self and value it daily, even when others attempt to undercut my self-worth.

“When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness—the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging.”

― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

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Self-Love

I love myself as I am.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”

― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"

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Outcomes

I plan ahead for the outcomes I desire.

“You always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten. If you want something new, do something new, especially when there are so many alternatives.”

― NLP: New Technology: The New Technology by NLP Comprehensive

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Compassion

I regularly feel and show compassion to others.

“True compassion does not come from wanting to help out those less fortunate than ourselves but from realizing our kinship with all beings.”

― Pema Chödrön, Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living

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Self-Compassion

I regularly show myself compassion.

“I now see how owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.”

― Brené Brown

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Faith

I remain steady in the face of life’s challenges because I know that my core self is always okay.

"I said to my soul, be still, and wait without hope. For hope would be hope for the wrong thing; wait without love. For love would be love of the wrong thing; there is yet faith. But the faith and the love and the hope are all in the waiting."

― T.S. Eliot

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Speak Impeccably

I speak with integrity to others and to myself.

“You can measure the impeccability of your word by your level of self-love. How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself are directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word. When you are impeccable with your word, you feel good; you feel happy and at peace.”

― Miguel Ruiz

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Control Thoughts

I understand that my thoughts are very much in my control, and I monitor and manage my thoughts daily.

"Our life is what our thoughts make it.”

― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

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Cultivate talents

I work hard to cultivate my unique talents every day.

“WE ALREADY HAVE everything we need. There is no need for self-improvement. All these trips that we lay on ourselves—the heavy-duty fearing that we’re bad and hoping that we’re good, the identities that we so dearly cling to, the rage, the jealousy and the addictions of all kinds—never touch our basic wealth. They are like clouds that temporarily block the sun. But all the time our warmth and brilliance are right here. This is who we really are. We are one blink of an eye away from being fully awake.”

― Pema Chödrön, Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living

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Storytelling

In difficult moments I work hard to see a different, more empowered perspective.

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”

― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

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Boundaries

Other people's opinions do not influence my decisions or sense of self-worth.

"As Eleanor Roosevelt observed, “No one can hurt you without your consent.” In the words of Gandhi, “They cannot take away our self respect if we do not give it."

― Steven Covey

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After taking the test, you might've seen some questions where you scored a 5 or higher. These are your problem areas. If that's the case, take the time to look back at these questions and address them to your own life. Accurately assess and as soon as you can, get on the journey to being your best, authentic self!

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0-200: Emotionally fit
201-300: Emotionally heavy
301 - 400: Emotionally obese

Physical Signs of Emotional Obesity

I am aware of the effects stress can cause in my body, and I take daily action to manage it.

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Right/Wrong

I avoid claiming to be "right" or "wrong" in day-to-day moments.

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Rejection

I do not allow a fear of rejection to stop me from taking action.

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Taking It Personally

I do not take other people's moods or opinions about me personally. Everyone has a right to his or her views.

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Significance

I feel appreciated by other people, like my friends or family.

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Fear

I manage my fears and do not let them determine my life's decisions.

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Blame

I own my current circumstances; no one else is responsible for the quality of my life.

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Assumption

I refrain from making assumptions when communicating and ask for clarification when needed.

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Cannot or Should Not

I refrain from using words like “can't” and “shouldn't.”

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Imposter Voices

I take action from my thoughts alone. I don’t always check in with my core feelings and emotions.

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Anger

I understand that anger comes and goes, so I refrain from taking action from a place of anger.

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Judgment

I understand that judgment is a part of life, but I manage my inner judge's harmful views of others or myself.

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Shame

I was "made" right. I am not a mistake. I have flaws, but I am not wrong at my core.

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Certainty of Success

I will pursue a goal, even if I am not 100% certain I will succeed.

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Dread

My life is not heavy and weighed down.

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Victim

Other people or events do not dictate or define my life. I am in charge.

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Contribution

I actively seek out ways to contribute my talents into the world.

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Growth

I actively seek to learn and grow daily.

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Attachment

I allow painful moments to pass without feeling overwhelmed. I allow pleasurable moments to pass without attempting to hold on to them.

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Habit

I am aware of my emotional habits, and if a habit is not serving me I will go out of my way to change and improve it.

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Joy

I am fulfilled with my life as it is; nothing is lacking.

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Time

I am in charge of how I use my time.

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Celebrate Wins

I celebrate even small wins on a regular basis.

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Gratitude

I consider gratitude to be one of my core values. I regularly take time to scan the moment for what I am grateful for, even in unsatisfactory situations.

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Curious of Self

I do not feel like I know everything. Instead, I am constantly curious about the world around me, other people, and myself.

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Abundance

I feel as though my needs, both physical and emotional, are met.

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Authenticity

I feel authentic, real, and genuinely like myself in my daily interactions.

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Surrender

I give myself space, step back, and let go of things I cannot solve in the moment.

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Self-Worth

I know my deeper, authentic self and value it daily, even when others attempt to undercut my self-worth.

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Self-Love

I love myself as I am.

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Outcomes

I plan ahead for the outcomes I desire.

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Compassion

I regularly feel and show compassion to others.

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Self-Compassion

I regularly show myself compassion.

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Faith

I remain steady in the face of life’s challenges because I know that my core self is always okay.

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Speak Impeccably

I speak with integrity to others and to myself.

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Control Thoughts

I understand that my thoughts are very much in my control, and I monitor and manage my thoughts daily.

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Cultivate talents

I work hard to cultivate my unique talents every day.

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Storytelling

In difficult moments I work hard to see a different, more empowered perspective.

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Boundaries

Other people's opinions do not influence my decisions or sense of self-worth.

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